About Family Law Mediation
The Divorce Mediation Process
Angie's 4 Steps to Separation / Divorce Mediation
Once you decide to work with Angie, she will meet individually with you and your partner. She'll ask you about
- any agreements you've made
- your personal goals for mediation and the transitions
- your children and how they are doing
- any safety issues and/or about your relationship dynamics.
It's normal to feel a little anxious or nervous. Even so it's important to speak openly and candidly with Angie.
You'll be addressing important topics and making some big decisions, so letting her know how you are feeling is very important. Angie can change the structure of the mediation or build in breaks to make sure the process works for you and your partner.
What is said in the individual meeting is confidential and will not be told to the other party.
Angie will give each of you a series of worksheets to help organize the financial and parenting aspects of your situation so you will be prepared for the joint sessions.
You will schedule joint sessions with Angie, the number of which will be determined based on your needs and issues you need to discuss.
- For each particular topic, you will share your point of view.
- Angie will help each of you talk about your values, priorities and goals around the topic. The goal is to express what is important to you and to see that the other person fully understands what you’re communicating. You don’t need to agree on those values, priorities and goals – just understand them fully.
- Then you generate as many different options as you can. You measure them against each person’s list of values, priorities and goals to see how well each option fits the items on the lists.
- Then you select the option with the best fit and work out as many details as you can. You clarify details until it’s clear what you have agreed on and how you will carry out that option.
- The steps may seem straightforward and rigid, but often you need to go back and forth between them as you think of ideas you might not have shared yet. Sometimes, when you get to step 3, you need to take a break and research what options are practical or possible, then come back to another session and discuss the options.
Once you reach a final agreement, Angie will draft the needed court documents upon request. These documents include everything you need to finalize your divorce, modification, and/or separation.
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Still Have About Mediation?
Mediation is neutral. The mediator is not a judge and won’t decide who is right or wrong. The mediator is there to support both of you through the process of figuring out the best possible outcomes for yourselves and for your children. Both of you are entitled to respect and impartial consideration from the mediator.
Mediation is confidential. Nothing said during mediation can be used against you in court. Except in cases involving mandatory reporting of child abuse or elder abuse, everything said or written down during mediation is confidential.
Mediators can reveal only one piece of information to the court – that you and your partner participated in mediation. You can make suggestions, share information and brainstorm ideas, all without worrying that your statements will somehow be used against you later.
Mediation is voluntary. Although a court can order you to attend mediation, you decide how to engage in mediation and whether or not you reach an agreement. Angie respects your right to self-determination. Agreements in mediation require the full, informed consent of each person. The court isn’t overseeing the exchange of information. It’s up to you to negotiate and provide information in good faith. Although the mediator provides guidance, you are responsible for making sure you have all the information you need before making a decision.
You should be fully informed before you make a decision. Angie will encourage you to learn all you can about your options before deciding what to do. That means it’s your responsibility to consult with other professionals to make sure you understand the effect of a decision. Angie can provide referrals to professionals or resources to help you gather the information you need.
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